Central Contact Point for Cross-border Family Conflicts
based at the German Branch of International Social Service within the “Deutscher Verein”
For further information please call: +49 (0)30/62 980 403
Arguments & fights
over children
Crossing boundaries
Central Contact Point for Cross-border Family Conflicts
Every year, a great many couples, married or unmarried, are in the process of separation. For those who have children, their separation will have profound effects not only on the lives of the parents, but will turn upside down the world of their children as well. When the children have to move, or one of their parents is moving out, this will change their entire life. In many cases, the parents’ separation will cause a crisis, or at least a situation of uncertainty. Usually the interests of their children are best served if the parents manage as soon as possible to cooperate in a reasonable way with regard to their children’s care, upbringing as well as the right of access, to enable the children to maintain a beneficial and meaningful relationship to both parents.
But reality tells a different story. The actions and reactions of parents after separation are often contrary to their original intent to give priority to the best interests of the child. Not being able to differentiate between the couple relationship and their relationship as parents, they are unable to reach agreements on matters concerning their children and each one criticizes the other parent’s way of acting; e.g. they:
Often children are exposed to their parents’ behavior unprotected. This may have disastrous effects – psychological problems, behavior disorders, problems at school, just to mention a few of them. The longer the conflict goes on, the greater the risk that the parents’ separation will have lasting adverse consequences for the children’s development which may persist into adulthood.
To enable parents to meet the needs and safeguard the interests of their children, they should seek professional counseling to encourage them to:
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On 29th March, ISS German Branch received a visit from Kyoko Hijikata, deputy director of the Division for Hague Conventions
The German Branch of International Social Service (ISD) provides individual counselling for family members at the premises of the “Verband binationaler Familien und Partnerschaften” (iaf e.V. /Association of Binational Families and Partnerships).
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